Isabella's getting her tonsils/adenoids out tomorrow. While we have had our share of minor illness, scraps and scrapes, this is our first "biggie" on the kid front. I've been rereading a chapter from Edith Schaeffer's WHAT IS A FAMILY, the chapter where she talks about caring for your family when they are sick, recovering, etc.
Quoting her, "On a human level, children are meant to learn how to comfort others with the same kind of comfort they have received in their own pain, sicknesses, and deep troubles. Children are meant to understand compassion and comfort because they have received compassion and comfort--and this should be in the family setting. A family should be a place where comfort is experienced and understood, so that the people are prepared to give comfort to others. Comfort should be related to the word family."
In light of that, I've been making some plans on how to make this time of recovery special for Isabella--she's supposed to be a "couch potato" for a week, doctor's orders. Here are a few ideas should you ever find yourself in a similar situation--
1. Tasty stuff--obviously her throat will be sore, but I'm stocking up on juices, popsicles, etc. I also bought "Ensure" it's a nutritional supplement, each bottle has 350 liquid calories. I figured her barely 40 lb frame doesn't have a whole lot to spare! ;o)
2. Presentation--a special floral cup to drink out of, small blue snack plates with matching striped napkins . . . just some sweet and simple ideas to convey "You are special!" and hopefully make whatever I'm serving up a bit more tempting.
3. A t.v. tray ready and waiting by her bed
4. Hanging up a wire/ribbon to clothespin "get well" cards to so they are there for her to look at
5. Getting the other kids in on the action, making get well cards and posters, getting her some balloons
6. A few special things just for her . . . vivid turquoise nail polish for an at-home mani/pedi, a new book filled with craft ideas, some refreshing coconut/lime lotion for foot rubs, beads and stretchy cord for a quiet activity of making necklaces/bracelets . . .
7. And maybe most importantly--availability, for holding and loving, reading to, watching a movie with . . .
I hope in the end she'll come away with fond memories of being cared for. It's not just caring for physical needs but caring for little souls (and big souls too!). It's a wonderful opportunity for each of us to practice having a servant's heart and develop empathy for the plight of another. We all like to be loved and feel special--and I hope we can successfully convey that to her while she recovers.
If you have anymore ideas to add to my list do share! We'll be reporting to the hospital at 7 a.m., surgery begins at 9 a.m. and hopefully we'll be home mid-afternoon.
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